I am reminded tonight that strife and tension are not always bad, that, as a parent, you have to make decisions that necessarily cause your children some grief. When you’re 3, not getting your way can be a major headache for all parties involved. Actually, I know some 30 year olds that still cause major headaches for people sometimes when they don’t get their way. I won’t mention any names (ahem…Phil….ahem).

Some parents think that as long as their kid isn’t screaming or throwing a tantrum they’re doing alright. Others are too harsh. Somewhere in-between is the truth that there are acceptable levels of strife in a given household – children need unbending rules, even when they protest. I’m convinced that firmness and discipline (as long as there is love evidenced behind it) is the best way to raise a child. I’m no expert, but it seems to have worked for the now-adults I know who were raised by their parents in this way.

Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right. “Honor your father and mother” is the first commandment that has a promise attached to it, namely, “so you will live well and have a long life.” Fathers, don’t exasperate your children by coming down hard on them. Take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master. (Ephesian 6:1-4, The Message)

Hi Phil,

‘I’m convinced that firmness and discipline (as long as there is love evidenced behind it) is the best way to raise a child.’

Just to say, I’m sure you’re right.

Regards.

Bernard

Comment by Bernard Martin June 3, 2009 @ 11:51 pm

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